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The Chips
We had an election. The chips fell, as they say. One guy didn’t win. That’s how elections go. There’s a person who wins and a person who...
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Dec 21, 20205 min read
Mind the Gap
Remember that scene in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade where he comes barreling down the stone passageway into what looks like a...
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Dec 15, 20207 min read
When the Boob is on the Other Foot
On Monday morning, I went to a consult with a surgeon to see about having what is often called in the trans community "top surgery." For...
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Dec 2, 20205 min read
Trigger Happy
“Ugh. That thing she said? It totally triggered me.” How many times have you heard this or something like it in the last handful of...
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Nov 16, 20203 min read
Do I Look Small in This?
I’ve been reading The Person You Mean to Be: How Good People Fight Bias by Dolly Chugh. Oh, man. Every time I pick it up, I make sure I’m...
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Nov 12, 20203 min read
Electric Cars and Agent Orange
“The electric vehicle is not for everybody. It can only meet the needs of 90 percent of the population.” Ed Begley, perhaps not a giant...
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Nov 4, 20202 min read
Alive
Humans are afraid of death. Don’t fight me on this. It’s a thing. It’s well-documented. There are those of us who have worked to make...
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Oct 30, 20203 min read
Daniel and Me
“You are not required to pursue health to be deemed worthy of love, respect or belonging.” I’m sorry. Say wha? When I first read* this...
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Oct 26, 20204 min read
Gimme That Ol’ Time Repression
"Pull your shirt down!" came an adult female voice from off-field. I was playing football with the boys again. It was summer. It was hot....
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Oct 12, 20203 min read
Not So New World
Columbus Day is yet another way America misses the point on purpose.
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Oct 7, 20203 min read
You're Invited!
We’re at a crossroads. It’s all very Tom Hanks at the end of Castaway. Many of us find this to be true on a personal level, but it’s...
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Sep 17, 20204 min read
I Do Declare
I started toying with vegetarianism, which is to say “actively feeling bad for being a carnivore, but not doing much more than that”...
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Sep 9, 20203 min read
Living in "Not A"
Oh, how I long for times that are simply “precedented.” Well, and maybe I don’t. All my life, I have felt most alive when things were...
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Aug 25, 20202 min read
Staying Out of the Way
COVID invited me to lead a weekly book group about the book "Awake at the Bedside: Contemplative Teachings on Palliative and End of Life...
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